Friday, August 28, 2009

Spirited

So I still get the Baby Center updates once a week and this week I read a little more into it since Ramsey's behaviour has been "off" this week. I know it has been a lot on him that Cope has been traveling for work so much and he started play school this week. As I read I found all the intense behaviors of Ramsey being described as typical "Spirited" toddler behavior. Now, why had I not thought of that kind word sooner to describe what sort of child he is. Up until now I've described him as intense and strong willed. Of course he still has his super sweet moments but the spirited ones have been taking over this week.

Example: Yesterday morning (Thursday) I had been talking to him and telling him we were going to music class together (AKA Kindermusic). So we left the house around 9:50 because music class started at 10:30 and I needed to go make a return at Kohls before hand. Well, as soon as I pulled into the Kohls parking lots Ramsey started saying "no" and crying. I thought he'd get over it and after all I only needed 5 minutes of his time there. So I got him out and let him walk in. I told him to hold my hand which he refused. When I tried to get his hand he proceeded to sit down in the parking lot and cry. Really? So I scooped him up and ran inside. I got a cart so he could sit as he was still crying very loudly. I started to head for the return desk but he was very upset, I mean the snotty nose sort of upset. So I decided it wasn't worth it and he wasn't calming down so out we went. I got him back in the car seat and and said "what in the world is wrong" and he said "DANCE". Even though I was mad I realized he thought we were going to Kindermusic and that this is what his little mind was set on and this detour to Kohls was a cruel joke. I felt bad but his intensity truly needed to come down a notch. As we approach 2 years old I am crossing my fingers that I can survive this "Spirited" child. He is so much fun but he seriously knows how to make his Mommy feel super crazy at times.

6 comments:

Mylinda said...

You're so good- I quit reading those updates when Hudson was about 4 weeks old. They stress me out. The Baby Whisperer book has classified Hudson as Spirited from day 1. I like to think it means he'll be smart!

The Tooles said...

I love this story because you took the time to UNDERSTAND what was making him so upset. In my mind, that makes you a great mom! I took a mental note to try to follow in your footsteps when it is my turn to deal with a screaming child(that can communicate what's wrong) in the department store=)

Christine said...

You are great Tara. I think Ramsey just doesn't like shopping! Your patience is to be admired.

Erin said...

Oh yes, the Spirited child, I too have one of those. I too think I am going to go crazy at times. When its good, it's GOOD, when it's bad...RUN! Haha. I like to think we are given the children we can "handle". Sounds to me like you do awesome with Ramsey.

jill said...

he and his friend think a LOT alike. when i was getting ready to pop priss's leg in target yesterday for standing up in the buggy, she put her finger in my face and yelled NO! and then she started screaming crying so everybody in the store thought i was beating her. fabulous. i know what you're going through ... but we'll make it. and then when they're teenagers, i'm sure we'll be wishing for the toddler days again. ha!

Erin Duvall said...

that's too funny. and yet frustrating for you. but it is nice that he can communicate to you what is wrong. and great that you are tryin to have lots of patience.