Ok, So I am not sure what exactly the "terrible twos" are but one thing is for sure I am at loss when it comes to disciplining Ramsey lately. He simply not listening when I tell him not to do something. I have tried talking to him and explaining gently why I am saying "no" to what he is doing. I have most certainly raised my voice. I have tried the counting to 3 thing but he just thinks it is fun to count right along with me. Time outs are not that effective for him. He will stay put but doesn't considerate it harsh discipline. I have popped his bottom, I have pulled down his panst and smacked his leg but at this point he doesn't even flinch and I hate spankings and at this rate he'll be getting one several times a day making them even less effective. He is not a bad kid and he knows when he is doing something wrong. It is as if he just checking to make sure his will is stronger then mine.
Anyway, I am struggling to find a way to get his attention to let him know I am "the boss" and when I say "no" I mean no. I never want him to be afraid of me but I do want him to believe me. I try to stay consistent as much as possible. I mean sometimes he is so sweet but when he his naughty, he is naughty. I know this is all part of the development of a STRONG WILLED CHILD but any advice to help this mommy survive would be much appreciated.